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Achieving goals – being not that SMART

Achieving goals – being not that SMART

To be not that SMART

Achieving goals by introducing a system my be smarter.

I will lose 5 kilos by the end of the year – this is my goal for the rest of 2019.

Wait a second, why five? And four will not be good? Or six? Until December? And if I lose weight four by Janury the 15th, I will be dissatisfied?

 

I will, because it shows lack of perseverance, strong will, determination and other characteristics from this category.

Nonsense, right?

Setting goals just to prove to yourself that you are failure is a very popular topic.

So set a goal and achieve it, be hard, or be condemned.  You set yourself a specific goal and tell yourself that unless you lose weight, you will not be happy, healthy, rich, etc.

So what to do? Do not lose weight? Yes, but in a slightly different way.

Achieving goals, is often based on the very popular SMART method.

According to SMART, in order for the goals to be good, they must be:

S – Simple; M – Measurable; A – Assessable; R – Realistic; T – Timebound

So, this is what we get:

S – lose weight

M – 5 kilos

A – permanently (for example without a yo-yo effect)

R – others can I can do it too (I have clear evidence on the Internet,  have you seen all these memes “before and after”?!)

T – by the end of the year

 

We launch a mechanism that tells us that unless we achieve the goal, we will not be happy, healthy, rich, etc.

We are angry if achieving goals becomes too hard. Until you lose five kilos, your efforts will not be enough. And what if it will be four and a half?

 

How can you improve yourself and your life in a different way?

Loose weight as a side effect of having a system.

Define behaviours and activities that will result in the desired effects.

For example, if we are using the example of losing kilograms, introduce a healthy eating system. We do not go on a draconian diet to suffer for several weeks. After reading this blog, you can immediately for example drink an additional half a litre of water a day.

And every day, when you do, you’ll be happy with yourself. Then you can try to eat a fruit dessert instead of a cake. And we have introduced another element of the system. Add going for a longer walk, exercise as much as possible, etc.

The effect is that:

– Every day brings progress

– You have every reason to be proud of yourself every day

– You stress less every day

 

Maybe you will not lose exactly five pounds by December. But you will do something good for yourself on a way!

It is also important to know what goals do you really want to achieve. What will make you happy?

Achieving goals by introducing a system my be smarter.

I will lose 5 kilos by the end of the year – this is my goal for 2019.

Wait a second, why five? And four will not be good? Or six? Until December? And if I lose weight four to Nov the 15th, I will be dissatisfied?

I will, because it shows lack of perseverance, strong will, determination and other characteristics from this category.

Nonsense, right?

(not) SMART

Setting goals just to prove to yourself that you are failure is a very popular topic.

So set a goal and achieve it, be hard, or be condemned. You set yourself a specific goal and tell yourself that unless you lose weight, you will not be happy, healthy, rich, etc.

So what to do? Do not lose weight? Yes, but in a slightly different way.

Setting goals, is often based on the very popular SMART method.

According to SMART, in order for the goals to be good, they must be:
S – Simple; M – Measurable; A – Assessable; R – Realistic; T – Timebound

So, this is what we get:
S – lose weight
M – 5 kilos
A – permanently (for example without a yo-yo effect)
R – others can I can do it too (I have clear evidence on the Internet, have you seen all these memes “before and after”?!)
T – by the end of the year

 

Where do you start?
We launch a mechanism that tells us that unless we achieve the goal, we will not be happy, healthy, rich, etc.

We are angry if achieving goals becomes too hard. Until you lose five kilos, your efforts will not be enough. And what if it will be four and a half?

How can you improve yourself and your life in a different way?

Loose weight as a side effect of having a system.

Define behaviours and activities that will result in the desired effects.

For example, if we are using the example of losing kilograms, introduce a healthy eating system. We do not go on a draconian diet to suffer for several weeks.

After reading this blog, you can immediately for example drink an additional half a litre of water a day.

And every day, when you do, you’ll be happy with yourself. Then you can try to eat a fruit dessert instead of a cake. And we have introduced another element of the system. Add going for a longer walk, exercise as much as possible, etc.

The effect is that:
– Every day brings progress
– You have every reason to be proud of yourself every day
– You stress less every day

Maybe you will not lose exactly five pounds by December. But you will do something good for yourself, and you may lose weight as a side effect.

It is also important to know what goals do you really want to achieve. What will make you happy?

Twirling Hair

Boredom must be interpreted as the time for Twirling Hair. In the sense that the best solution for boredom is to give yourself time for constructive unproductivity.

Well deserved cookie

Do you reach for a cookie or other healthy snack while working or studying? An intellectual mind burns more calories and likes sweets very much.

Achieving goals – being not that SMART

Set a goal and achieve it, be hard, or be condemned.  You set yourself a specific goal and tell yourself that unless you lose weight, you will not be happy, healthy, rich, etc.
So what to do? Do not lose weight? Yes, but in a slightly different way.

Be late for something day

Be late for Something Day!

Happy Be late for Something Day!

Sometimes it’s good to be late for something. Isn’t it?

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You may approach the passage of time with distance and understanding.

It is better to get somewhere a little later but with a smile. It’s not the best idea to arrive sharp on time but breathless, dishevelled or in a bad makeup.

And believe me, I do hate to wait. Stupid five minutes stretches in time that runs slower and slower with each passing second.

Lack of punctuality is widely regarded as shameful. People who must wait usually feel offended and disregarded.

However, sometimes it is good to relax a bit, smile and not run against the clock.

Take a deep breath, check your hair in the mirror again, fix a tie, talk to a neighbour, pet a dog or a cat.

If you know you’re going to be late, send a text – “I’ll be there in 10 minutes”. It works very well for me – I know that the person I am waiting for is on a way, that he appreciates me waiting, and that I have 10 minutes for coffee or anything else.

It turns out that today is the “be late for something” day – a holiday that I think is quite pleasant.

There are things that we are absolutely not late for: a plane, a train, a date (mainly for guys), a job interview and to a theatre play. Nothing more comes to my mind today… 

Twirling Hair

Boredom must be interpreted as the time for Twirling Hair. In the sense that the best solution for boredom is to give yourself time for constructive unproductivity.

Well deserved cookie

Do you reach for a cookie or other healthy snack while working or studying? An intellectual mind burns more calories and likes sweets very much.

Achieving goals – being not that SMART

Set a goal and achieve it, be hard, or be condemned.  You set yourself a specific goal and tell yourself that unless you lose weight, you will not be happy, healthy, rich, etc.
So what to do? Do not lose weight? Yes, but in a slightly different way.

Where is rat’s run finish line?

Where is Rat’s run finish line?

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Why do you want to be a President? Because parents expect it? To earn more and buy a jaw dropping car?

I fell into a trap of a rat race just because other rats ran too.

Overtime, horrible meetings, sometimes not very pleasant bosses, all to be at the forefront of an endless marathon.

It is important that your goal is really yours.

The road to it can be paved with challenges, but energy and motivation will not be lacking. I know that writing and photography make me happy, so no criticism or acrimony will discourage me.

Faces of people when I say that I like my project and do not plan to be a director? Priceless!

Twirling Hair

Boredom must be interpreted as the time for Twirling Hair. In the sense that the best solution for boredom is to give yourself time for constructive unproductivity.

Well deserved cookie

Do you reach for a cookie or other healthy snack while working or studying? An intellectual mind burns more calories and likes sweets very much.

Achieving goals – being not that SMART

Set a goal and achieve it, be hard, or be condemned.  You set yourself a specific goal and tell yourself that unless you lose weight, you will not be happy, healthy, rich, etc.
So what to do? Do not lose weight? Yes, but in a slightly different way.

Pleasure or just no pain?

Pleasure or just no pain?

Pleasure or just no pain?

To get to where your happiness is, you need to know from where you’re leaving.

So according to the previous post, we are looking for the starting point, point A.

Cover: Whitney

The first task will be to find out whether you are a person who enjoys pleasures, adventures and looks into the future, or rather likes traditions, security and the past.

This post is part of the Destination Delight series –

find out more!

Do you see yourself on the right or left at the following picture?
You probably can answer this question right away. For example, I know that I am definitely on the yellow side.

Do not judge

However, the topic is worth exploring. The point is not to categorize, nor to judge.

There are certainly many people who think that focusing on achieving pleasure is BAD and stable approach, following a path full of sacrifices to a glorious goal is GOOD.

I do not support such a view.

Besides, we have, as usual in life, two extremes, and hardly anyone is 100% hedonist or 100% ascetic.

That’s why the picture shows that the border between the sides is fluid.

Assessing yourself may depend on you current mood. Maybe you have a series of bad days and it is worth postponing deep reflections for later?

Let us focus on hedonistic side of your soul.

Hedonism, in short, is an approach according to which the main goal of life is to experience the maximum amount of pleasure at any given time.

So we have here spontaneous  parties, shopping, striving to make every moment pleasant. Asceticism is the opposite of hedonism, that is, we have sacrifice in the name of greater good and moderation.

Is hedonism good or bad? Of course, this attitude has both sides.

In general, the pursuit of pleasure is consistent with our nature and promotes health. It makes us feel satisfied with life because we have more positive than negative experiences. We make contacts more often and easier, and we deal with stress better.

On the other hand, when it turns out that you can not keep up the pace and you can go to extremes and put yourself at a higher risk. This may include stimulants, dangerous acquaintances, and in the extreme case maybe an addiction.

Quizz

Here is a short quizz that will allow you to check your current position on the hedonism scale.

HOWEVER, before proceeding, take into account that:

– It will be the result of “here and now” and it is worth repeating this quiz (I have prepared for this purpose a very useful  the Destination Delight Itinerary (free download and printing)

– You can do the quiz quickly, and then think about the questions and try again

– You can do the test yourself, and then ask someone who knows you well to fill it for you – it can be very interesting to find out how others perceive you.

To get to where your happiness is, you need to know from where you’re leaving.

So according to the previous post, we are looking for the starting point, point A.

Cover: Whitney

This post is part of the Destination Delight series –

find out more!

The first task will be to find out whether you are a person who enjoys pleasures, adventures and looks into the future, or rather likes traditions, security and the past.

Do you see yourself on the right or left at the following picture?

You probably can answer this question right away. For example, I know that I am definitely on the yellow side.
Do not judge
However, the topic is worth exploring. The point is not to categorize, nor to judge.

There are certainly many people who think that focusing on achieving pleasure is BAD and stable approach, following a path full of sacrifices to a glorious goal is GOOD.

I do not support such a view.

Besides, we have, as usual in life, two extremes, and hardly anyone is 100% hedonist or 100% ascetic.

That’s why the picture shows that the border between the sides is fluid.

Assessing yourself may depend on you current mood. Maybe you have a series of bad days and it is worth postponing deep reflections for later?

Your hedonistic side
Hedonism, in short, is an approach according to which the main goal of life is to experience the maximum amount of pleasure at any given time.

So we have here spontaneous  parties, shopping, striving to make every moment pleasant. Asceticism is the opposite of hedonism, that is, we have sacrifice in the name of greater good and moderation.

Is hedonism good or bad? Of course, this attitude has both sides.

In general, the pursuit of pleasure is consistent with our nature and promotes health. It makes us feel satisfied with life because we have more positive than negative experiences. We make contacts more often and easier, and we deal with stress better.

On the other hand, when it turns out that you can not keep up the pace and you can go to extremes and put yourself at a higher risk. This may include stimulants, dangerous acquaintances, and in the extreme case maybe an addiction.

Take a Quizz
Here is a short quizz that will allow you to check your current position on the hedonism scale.

HOWEVER, before proceeding, take into account that:

– It will be the result of “here and now” and it is worth repeating this quiz (I have prepared for this purpose a very useful  the Destination Delight Itinerary (free download and printing)

– You can do the quiz quickly, and then think about the questions and try again

– You can do the test yourself, and then ask someone who knows you well to fill it for you – it can be very interesting to find out how others perceive you.

Twirling Hair

Boredom must be interpreted as the time for Twirling Hair. In the sense that the best solution for boredom is to give yourself time for constructive unproductivity.

Well deserved cookie

Do you reach for a cookie or other healthy snack while working or studying? An intellectual mind burns more calories and likes sweets very much.

Achieving goals – being not that SMART

Set a goal and achieve it, be hard, or be condemned.  You set yourself a specific goal and tell yourself that unless you lose weight, you will not be happy, healthy, rich, etc.
So what to do? Do not lose weight? Yes, but in a slightly different way.

Just do it – how to take criticism

Just do it! How to take criticism

There is no point in starting anything new, because others are much further from you, have more experience, know more, etc. Well, I also consider it nonsense.

Do you know the saying that “the flower does not care for the other one, it just blossoms”? We have summer, so with the naked eye you can see that a lot of flowers look better than one, right?

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How many times have you heard that you have to be able to take criticism? I think that this cliché needs to be modified into: you should be able to take criticism selectively.

The world is big

and there is enough space for everyone. Your life is not a race, you can take a step in the right direction every day.

Once I got great advice: If you want to be a good photographer, do not compete with your colleagues, just take pictures. And it works! The best photo lesson I’ve had so far!

You need to be resistant to opinions of people who lack knowledge or are simply inherently nasty and snappy. It is often the case that once I put all my skills and knowledge into taking a picture, I know – just a split of a second after that – what I would do better. And no one has to voluntarily point out mistakes to me. Unless I ask for advice myself.

Unfortunately,

selectivity is not so easy.
An annoying remark can affect the artist and deprive him / her of inspiration for a long time. How to get immunized? You just have to practice and ask yourself each time whether the opinion of the person is important to you.

This is not about arrogance but about common sense. I also do not speak uninvited about the work of others and it’s much better!

Twirling Hair

Boredom must be interpreted as the time for Twirling Hair. In the sense that the best solution for boredom is to give yourself time for constructive unproductivity.

Well deserved cookie

Do you reach for a cookie or other healthy snack while working or studying? An intellectual mind burns more calories and likes sweets very much.

Achieving goals – being not that SMART

Set a goal and achieve it, be hard, or be condemned.  You set yourself a specific goal and tell yourself that unless you lose weight, you will not be happy, healthy, rich, etc.
So what to do? Do not lose weight? Yes, but in a slightly different way.

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