I will lose 5 kilos by the end of the year – this is my goal for 2019. Wait a second, why five? And four will not be good? Or six? Until December? And if I lose weight four to Nov the 15th, I will be dissatisfied?
I will, because it shows lack of perseverance, strong will, determination and other characteristics from this category.
Nonsense, right? Setting goals and proving to yourself that you are failure is a very popular topic. So set a goal and achieve it, be hard, or be condemned. You set yourself a specific goal and tell yourself that unless you lose weight, you will not be happy, healthy, rich, etc.
So what to do? Do not lose weight? Yes, but in a slightly different way.
Setting goals, is often based on the very popular SMART method.
According to SMART, in order for the goals to be good, they must be:
S – Simple; M – Measurable; A – Assessable; R – Realistic; T – Timebound
So, this is what we get:
S – lose weight
M – 5 kilos
A – permanently (for example without a yo-yo effect)
R – others can I can do it too (I have clear evidence on the Internet, have you seen all these memes “before and after”?!)
T – by the end of the year
We launch a mechanism that tells us that unless we achieve the goal, we will not be happy, healthy, rich, etc.
We are angry if we can not achieve our goals. Until you lose five kilos, your efforts will not be enough. And what if it will be four and a half?
How can you improve yourself and your life in a different way?
Loose weight as a side effect of having a system. Define behaviours and activities that will result in the desired effects.
For example, if we are using the example of losing kilograms, introduce a healthy eating system. We do not go on a draconian diet to suffer for several weeks. After reading this blog, you can immediately for example drink an additional half a litre of water a day. And every day, when you do, you’ll be happy with yourself. Then you can try to eat a fruit dessert instead of a cake. And we have introduced another element of the system. Add going for a longer walk, exercise as much as possible, etc.
The effect is that:
– Every day brings progress
– You have every reason to be proud of yourself every day
– You stress less every day
Maybe you will not lose exactly five pounds by December. But you will do something good for yourself, and you may lose weight as a side effect.