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From A to B – where your happiness is

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August, 2019
Aleksandra Rowicka
So what is happiness? I will reply originally: “It depends.”

In the previous post I wrote about how to start searching what happiness means for you. The way is to ask yourself the right question. Think about how your situation could look like in ten years, without dealing now with formalities and practical details.

Cover photo: courtesy of Anastasia Golubeva

Now all you have to do is to set a plan step by step, what you will do to move from the current situation, more or less happy, to a place where we you feel better, stronger, have more energy and take full advantage of life.

In short, your plan how to be happy.

This post is part of the Destination Delight series –

find out more!

So, more scientifically the issue is presented in the diagram below:

The problem is that our image is just a simplified model. You have to dive into details and come to terms with the fact that it will not be a straight path.

Let us assume that we consider mankind as an intelligent species in general. One of the symptoms of intelligence is that we can make plans for the future and, if necessary, influence the reality that surrounds us to achieve the goal.

Little disturbance

However, there is one additional complication. Very often we have no control over events, or something simply goes wrong. When something inconsistent with the plan happens, we do not give up. We correct it, or change the target a bit and move on.

For example, your goal is to move to Tenerife (just like mine), and suddenly it turns out that you can’t afford to buy a house there because the prices have risen terribly. In this situation, you can consider a different destination with a similar climate, or live in a more cosy flat and spend more time on the beach.

To illustrate it in a more scientific way, let me present the following diagram:

Don’t give up

Sometimes, unfortunately, thing goes wrong – for example, you will fail an exam, or don’t get a job you wanted.

You get depressed then and you come to the conclusion that you are a failure.

Of course you are not a loser! You have to have a bit of compassion for yourself. It is not about looking for excuses or blaming others. Simply, you’ve screwed up and you need to fix it. There are two way, or you go for another job, or you try again.

To conclude:

The fact that the road to the goal will not be easy is a fact.

There is no point in fighting it, or giving up on the first bump.

Because we like metaphors, let’s compare reaching goals to driving. If there are works on your way, you don’t pull over and weep, just take a detour.

So what is happiness? I will reply originally: “It depends.”

In the previous post I wrote about how to start searching what happiness means for you. The way is to ask yourself the right question. Think about how your situation could look like in ten years, without dealing now with formalities and practical details.

This post is part of the Destination Delight series –

find out more!

Cover photo: courtesy of Anastasia Golubeva

Let's plan
Now all you have to do is to set a plan step by step, what you will do to move from the current situation, more or less happy, to a place where we you feel better, stronger, have more energy and take full advantage of life.

In short, your plan how to be happy.

You can do it
So, more scientifically the issue is presented in the diagram below:

The problem is that our image is just a simplified model. You have to dive into details and come to terms with the fact that it will not be a straight path.

Let us assume that we consider mankind as an intelligent species in general.

One of the symptoms of intelligence is that we can make plans for the future and, if necessary, influence the reality that surrounds us to achieve the goal.

However, there is one additional complication. Very often we have no control over events, or something simply goes wrong. When something inconsistent with the plan happens, we do not give up. We correct it, or change the target a bit and move on.

For example, your goal is to move to Tenerife (just like mine), and suddenly it turns out that you can’t afford to buy a house there because the prices have risen terribly. In this situation, you can consider a different destination with a similar climate, or live in a more cosy flat and spend more time on the beach.

To illustrate it in a more scientific way, let me present the following diagram:

Don't give up
Sometimes, unfortunately, thing goes wrong – for example, you will fail an exam, or don’t get a job you wanted.

You get depressed then and you come to the conclusion that you are a failure.

Of course you are not a loser! You have to have a bit of compassion for yourself. It is not about looking for excuses or blaming others. Simply, you’ve screwed up and you need to fix it. There are two way, or you go for another job, or you try again.

To conclude
The fact that the road to the goal will not be easy is a fact. There is no point in fighting it, or giving up on the first bump.

Because we like metaphors, let’s compare reaching goals to driving. If there are works on your way, you don’t pull over and weep, just take a detour.

Achieving goals – being not that SMART

Set a goal and achieve it, be hard, or be condemned.  You set yourself a specific goal and tell yourself that unless you lose weight, you will not be happy, healthy, rich, etc.
So what to do? Do not lose weight? Yes, but in a slightly different way.

Pleasure or just no pain?

Is hedonism good or bad? Of course, this attitude has both sides. Take a quiz to see how much hedonistic your soul is!

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